Giving Advice

Normally I hate giving advice but lately I seem to be right on the money with the advice I have been giving.  I am not doing fluffy "oh well maybe" crap I am just telling people my opinion very bluntly and it seems to be working.

I don't know what's going on I normally suck at giving advice(no really I do).  There have been some situations lately that have required me to give advice while I am not nasty with it I am trying to be truthful.

I am sure I will go back to giving crap advice soon but while I am on a roll I am going to stick with what I doing as it's working for now.

:O the very unusual happened.

Husband has taken extended leave :O 14 whole days off work.  This means more work for me as another person is in the house constantly.  Ok he is normally sleeping a lot but at least he is here right?

Poor man needs to catch up on sleep, needs to drive me crazy with what are you doing, why are you doing it that way, it would be better if you did it this way.  To the point where I get frustrated and tell him that if he thinks he can do a better job have the fuck at it.  No No honey you do it I will be quiet now Arrrrrrgggggggghhhhhhhh.  So far we are 7 days into his time off work and only 7 more to go.  On the bright side at least I have another person here with me for the first week of the school holidays, I can make him take the kids out and leave me in peace to prepare for when he goes back to work.  And first shift of the rank is NIGHT SHIFT.  Really people are stupid putting people with children on night shift during school holidays it just makes the person who is at home with the kids annoyed because they have to find something to do with the kids for an entire day so said person can sleep.  Then they are awake for all of 2 hours before they are out the door again and heading to work CRY.

maybe I should make him take the kids on a holiday like I do every year him and the 3 kids can go away and leave me here by myself.  Hmmm I am liking that idea more and more.

Does anyone else husband get workers guilt?

It's a very rare condition, you can't fix it, and it's terminal.  Lol it's the dreaded workers guilt.  Husband works so much and isn't here that often for the kids that he buys them everything they want.  It drives me mental I have told him and told him and told him that they don't need all this crap, But he feels so guilty about working so much he gives in Sigh.  It started small a little teddy or some such crap now it's bikes computers, TV's, Xbox games, Computer game credits lollies you name it if the kids want it soon or later they get it.

I can't stop him from doing this I only try to minimise it.  No children number 2 doesn't need more lego at this stage, no child 3 doesn't need more Barbies, No child one doesn't need the newest sims 3 expansion thing.

Shopping for me is a quick get in get what I need and get out, if the kids are with me it's punctured with me telling them NO NO NO NO NO NO.

With Husband along it's sure sure sure sure sure with me going no no no no sigh and I normally lose.  So if you have any tips on how to get it to bloody well stop let me know.

Reading.

I love reading there is nothing more relaxing to me than curling up with a book and reading for hours on end(or til I finish the book whichever comes first).  I have a love of romance novel and classics(eg the anne of green gables series and the little woman series).  But my biggest love is romance novel and it never takes me long to read one.  I fell in love with historical(American history/wild west/cowboys and Indians) at the age of 16 and have been reading them ever since.  I don't know why but I really enjoy the stories and the romance from the days of old.  Some of the new books have women falling in love with guys who are total assholes.  If someone spoke to me like the guys in some of the books spoke to the woman he would get my fist in his face and would never see me again let alone a happily ever after.

The only down side to reading is that I taught myself to speed read which means I can read the books rather fast then I am left with nothing.

I remember out shopping once I grabbed about 7 books to read and headed to the check out the guy serving me comment on that was a good months worth of reading I laughed and said  month?  this will barely last me the week.  He looked so shocked.

I currently own about 500 plus books( I stopped counting) and I have read and re read every single book I own.  Reading is becoming such and expensive hobby because I now have to buy the books overseas because I am looking for books from series I have started or have read about in the back of the books I own.  I am not talking about the 200 page mills and boon books(although I do own a lot of these) I am talking 300 to 500 pages gone in little more than 3 hours.

4 more school days til school holidays.

So it's 4 more days until the kids start school holidays and I don't know if I am excited or dreading it.  Husband will be home for half of the holidays(having decided to take 14 days off work starting on Tuesday) and I can't figure out what to do with the kids while they are on holidays.  Normally here it's raining by this time of year but we are having unseasonably warm weather.  Normally we hole up at home under the heater doing fun stuff but if it's warm they are going to want to go out a lot.

I am hoping for warm weather because 3 house bound children get cabin fever really quickly and then the fights start.  Yelling, screaming and carrying on.  It's enough to send anyone crazy.  However if I have them outside running wild they will burn off energy fast.  Hope for warm weather for me.

YAWN

I am so tired I can barely stay awake.  Thank goodness husband isn't heading off to work tonight and has offered to cook(heaven help me some "new" concoction he has thought up) and all I want to do is sleep.  Child number 2 is a horrible sleeper, well actually that is a lie he is a great sleep once you get him TO SLEEP it's the getting him to sleep that is the problem and has been for about 7 years.

From the time he was about 22 months old he could and would fight sleep, he could stay awake until 2 or 3 in the morning and be up at 8am ready and raring(his only speed) to go.  So I in desperation when he was 3 called the QEII for help and was told that he was to old for them to help.  So here I am with a newborn a 3 year old who won't sleep and a 4 year old going to pre school and I was getting about 3 hours of sleep a night, then on the go all day long.

Every Dr I spoke to told me it was a stage and he would grow out of it, my mum assumed my parental skills were lacking because I couldn't make him sleep so I let her have a crack at it and after 2hours she gave up.  Now that he is 9 I am at my wits end.  I need more sleep, he needs more sleep but I am not sure how to get it for him.  Now I am so tired from just writing this out I think I need a nap.  Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I love this time of year.

Ok granted I don't like the weather at this time of year I hate the cold, but so far this autumn hasn't been to bad in fact today got to a lovely hot 27 degrees C.  Normally we are lucky to get over 15 degrees C, so I am loving this.  But what I love so much about this time of year is the fact that day light savings has ENDED.  No more it's not bedtime the sun is still up, no more but it's still morning see(with said child pointing to the fact that the sun is still up) the kids think that as soon as it's dark it's bedtime.  I am so glad I don't live in countries where they have the midnight sun it would drive me crazy my kids would never sleep.

This means I get some peace and quiet at night not a lot but some, I get less arguments about bedtime which is just lovely.  As a kid I loved daylight savings because the fun never ended as a parent I hate it because the fun never ends.