Merry Christmas and looking back over the year.

First off Merry Christmas one and all.   I hope you all have a safe Christmas and New Year.

I have been sitting here thinking back over this last year and it has been a pretty good one as always there have been some lows but not to many.  And the Highs cancel out the lows anyway.

While it's tough being a shift workers wife I don't think I would have it any other way.  I know what to expect in this life and love the track that it's on.  The kids are growing up beautifully if I do say so myself, Husband is happy in his work and we are happy as a family and as a couple.

Then there is me looking for work, I am lucky enough to be in a position where I don't have to work and could be a lady of leisure but that life kind sucks for me, Now I am just waiting on a start date from the job I was found suitable for, hopefully at the beginning of the new year I will get that start date.

A response to a blog piece

Ok this morning I was shown a blog by my lovely friend over at Phenomenal Woman:  www.bloggitymoo.blogspot.com.au

This guy who wrote this piece truly is an Arsehole.  So in response to his "lovely"(yes I am using sarcasm there) piece I have decided to write a response.

Here is his piece
 www.boldanddetermined.com/2012/11/29/how-to-meet-shy-girls/  Trust me it's gag worthy and may induce feelings for stabbiness.  I am hoping he see's it and reads it.

Dear Bold & Determined

Having just been shown your blog piece this morning I just wished to clear a few things up with you.  
Number 1- Women are not "whores"
Number 2- I hope you don't kiss your mother with that mouth
Number 3- This blog piece is more than likely the reason you are no longer having sex with ANY woman.

Women are not toys for you to play with they are human beings capable it seems of more intelligent thought than you.  You say you want to act like a man around a women here is a thought trying acting like a man and not a Neanderthal.  Women don't want to be "hunted" we are not animals and you are not a hunter.  We also aren't food.  It is quite obvious from your blog piece that you have some issues that you should really seek help about them until then please stay away from women.  

Encouraging me to touch a woman after she has said NO is encouraging them to commit sexual assault because NO actually means NO.  No is NOT an invitation for you to continue touching someone.  Also women enjoy this thing(now I know this is going to be hard for you) called PERSONAL SPACE and if you are up in it all you should be getting is a rather nasty case of sore balls.

Shy women wouldn't touch you with a barge pole.  I would know I am ONE.  And speaking personally if any guy tried those tactics on me he would end up with extremely sore BALLS.  

I can tell you right now not all shy girls are "girlish" or don't have High Career ambitions we are just quiet achievers going quietly about our business and will go as high as we wish to go.  And you under estimate just how much of an opinion shy girls actually have.  We have lots just because we don't state them loudly doesn't mean we don't have them and don't express them because we do.  

This one paragraph explains to all why you can't keep a girlfriend/wife it's because you don't understand women at all.

"Shy girls do not tend to have sky high over-confidence and are more down to earth and downright easier to be around. I’m sure you have been spoonfed all this baloney about girls needing more confidence, well they don’t. They have far too much artificial confidence and that’s one reason they cannot keep a boyfriend and one reason why they are mentally unbalanced and rely on pharmaceutical anti-depressants. A shy girl isn’t necessarily immune to all this, but there’s a good chance she is."

There is just so much wrong in that one paragraph.  

You go on to compound your mistake by stating that "Part of being a man is being protector of your property, that includes your woman." I am not sure what century you are living in by women stopped being Viewed as property a LONG TIME AGO.

There is SO much more wrong with your blog piece but I think it stands to reason that you now might understand why women are avoiding you like the plague.  You are insensitive, devoid of any actual emotion other than aggression and please take my advice about seeking Professional help seriously you seem like you really need it.

Ok this bit needs addressing again, just so it becomes clear in your mind.

Here is your take on it
"You don’t need to act like a nice guy dweeb to get a shy girl. You don’t need to keep your hands to yourself and “respect her boundaries”. You need to be the aggressor, like a gentleman caveman. Shy girls aren’t touchy feely."

Here is my break down of it.
"You don't need to act like a nice guy dweeb to get a shy girl"- No you don't need to act like a nice guy try actually being one and you may actually get a shy girl or any girl for that matter.
"You don’t need to keep your hands to yourself and “respect her boundaries”.- You do have to keep your hands to your self and respect her boundaries because if you don't you end up on a sexual assault charge.
"You need to be the aggressor, like a gentleman caveman."- if you are going to be an "aggressor" or caveman you need to leave out the word Gentlemen because I highly doubt that you know what a gentleman actually is.




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And it's getting hot.

I love summer I love the heat, the swimming the long nights.  However I hate living in a house with no FRIGGEN AIR CON I am so over it.  4 houses in 12 years and NO air con in a single one of them.  Last night when I went to sleep it was still 27 Degrees Celsius in the house and 20 outside.  The poor cat is feeling the heat currently she is lying on my bed under a ceiling fan trying to stay cool.

I want to be at my mums where the swimming is cheap cheap cheap not up here where it costs $50 less for one days worth of swimming than it does for a YEARS worth of swimming down at mum's.  Serious $75 for a family seasons ticket down there unlimited swimming from the time the pool opens in November until it closes in March/April compared to $25 for a day of swimming up here.

I want to be doing this

Not this

Please note that is NOT me in the pictures.

I was found suitable.

If you have read my earlier blogs pieces you would have read that I went for a job interview WAY back during the second week of the last school holidays.  So since then I have been waiting and waiting and waiting to hear back about the job.  I would have heard either way but I am happy to say that I was found SUITABLE YAY.

This is the first step into the next phase of my life, for so long now I have just been a stay at home mum which was great I have been able to stay at home with the kids until they were all in school. But they are getting older now and don't need me home as much sure child 3 is still little being only 6 but the job I went for is only 3 nights a week and husband would be home with them at night.

I think for me working would give me a little time for me something I haven't had in a long while and I would also stop being just child 1, 2 or 3's mum or Husbands wife I would be ME.

The kids have a better social life than me.

It's true my kids do have a better social life than I do.  Child 1 is rarely home these days instead is off with her friends at their place or riding between our house and her friends places.  Child 2 is still my home body child but for how long and Child 3 has no less than 2 parties to go to today.

And I am just the taxi driver ferrying her between the two.  I can't even remember the last time I had a night out without the kids and just gone out with friends.  And even if I plan one it has to be done around husband's stupid roster because otherwise I can't go anywhere or who will watch the kids for me.

I need a night off a night of drinking and dancing and just letting go for a while.  I love going to a little nightclub here that plays 80's music(hehe I am child of the 80's).

Most of all I need a break.

Friday Whine

This is a total white whine, I am currently on a menstrual cycle that is a week long that is now in it's 6th week with my 3rd period and to tell the truth I am totally over it.

I am over the mood swings and being bitchy, I am over the cost of feminine hygiene products and most of all I am sick of blood.

I am sick of not having a job I have applied for so many jobs and have heard nothing back, I want to WORK.

I am sick of this headache I have.

I am sick of shiftwork and now another change in rosters to start next year TRY STICKING TO ONE FUCKING ROSTER FOR LONGER THAN 6 BLOODY MONTHS.

I did warn you it was a whine blog today.

I am sick of fighting kids.

I am sick of never getting a break, I need a holiday a real one not one that involves me and the kids going to visit my mum.  That is NOT a holiday for me.

This is why religion has no place in our lives.

Yesterday I read an article that made me so sad, A woman who had gone into a Hospital in Ireland was refused a medical abortion because Ireland is "catholic country" , So what you say it's the Dr's right to refuse treatment based on his religion?

Does that opinion change if I mention that mother present with bleeding and a was diagnosed as having a miscarriage?  Fully dilated and leaking amniotic fluid and bleeding?  Still the Dr's right to refuse.  How about if I tell you that after 2 and a half days the babies heartbeat finally stopped and she was then operated on?

How about if the mother then dies because she became infected with septicaemia?

All of this could have been avoided and a woman would still be alive if they had just done the damn medical abortion it was a NON VIABLE pregnancy, their failure to act cost a woman her life.

This is just one of the many reason I think that religion has no place in our lives these days when religion comes before lives this have gone fucking wrong, this woman who sadly lost her life wasn't even Catholic but their religious beliefs came before her health, What is wrong with religion that they can let a woman die for the sake of their beliefs?

This is just one of the reasons I turned my back on organised religion, a world run by men who think they know what it is like to be a woman and therefore should have a say on what we should and shouldn't do with our bodies.  

I also don't think that it is the Catholic Churches place to teach morality when they don't practise what they preach.  When they practise morality in such cases as child sexual abuse at the hands of their clergymen and give them straight over to the police to investigate instead of closing ranks around them and protecting them from arrest then maybe they can preach morality.

Maybe when they admit they are and were wrong on many things they can preach morality.  I don't need organised religion to tell me what is moral I know that already I know it's wrong to deny some one medical treatment because of YOUR religious beliefs, I know it's wrong to protect child sex offenders, yet they get away with this stuff and have done for such a long time.

There was a case a number of years ago where a 14 year old girl became pregnant with TWINS after being sexually abused by her step father, the safest recourse for this poor girl was an abortion so to try and stop it from happening the Catholic Church ex communicated the Dr's, mother and nurses from the church.  The man who did this terrible thing nope he gets to still be a member of the church.

There are so many more reason these are just a few until the churches admit they are wrong and move on with the rest of the world they will soon become obsolete and personally speaking I hope that happens soon.